But....in my absence on here I nurse a baby and pretty much train toddling twins to stay out of crap and assure that their climbing abilities do not render them paraplegics. Children and I have finally adjusted to city life once more...it only took 6 entire months....and we are quite mobile these days. I am not a fan of leaving anyone behind or continually asking older ones to stay with youngers as we errand run. While husband and I do have the occasional date night out and we revel in this new season of our life of having children old enough and astoundingly capable of babysitting younger ones, I still enjoy their company and love taking them with me....not to mention that I think it's a little wrong to constantly leave their butts at home just cause we happen to have an orphaniagic number of kids. So, children and I have learned the art of working together and being on the go quite a bit. I have finally conquered the fear of perturbing the working class of Raleigh and ruining every shoppers experience in Wal Mart...because I have come to the staggering realization that most every shoppers experience has already been ruined by their miserable state of life...and I now march them all in with me and shop rather merrily with my little entourage. It has become quite the game with the children to see how many people they can actually get to smile. Pretty pathetic in my book that you can count the number of smiling people on one hand....but more than a little amusing all at the same time. And I find it a bit odd that if we're out eating with every kid sitting happily and conversing that people are absolutely mesmerized and comments are by the hundreds whereas if we are shopping in any given store with the same happy well mannered behavior exhibited by children these same people are grouchy, old hags that think we have overpopulated the entire earth and are a completely uneducated nuisance as they reach for the Wheaties. So, on a completely random note...if you ever happen to see a large family with well behaved kids out shopping....encourage them, praise their children for their behavior and wait patiently while they shop with you. As long as children are lined neatly up on one side of the isle there is no reason on earth one should become so annoyed that you audibly sigh with utter disgust, frown so visibly that your mouth contorts into painful shapes, or mow over one of their kids in your haste to accomplish your mission in life in your hurried state. Odds are, that large family may not be as in a hurry as you think you are but they have a list to knock out just like you do. And when a mother smiles kindly at you, no matter the number of children present with her, just smile back. It will seriously do your face some good...and probably your spirit too.
So it is that we find freedom here as we learn to live this season of our life in the concrete jungle. Together we attend birthday parties, attend graduation ceremonies, shop, hike, run errands, and travel. In May children and I will travel to New Bern for Navy air show and stay overnight for homeschool history day the following day as shift husband works. I am coming to love North Carolina as the Lord surrounds us with beauty, amazing weather, seasons that leave the senses reeling, amazing opportunities, friends and activities for the children, and a group of people from church that we love deeply. How amazing it is to be surrounded with other fun loving couples with which husband and I can go out for a night, a group of women and close friendships that have been formed as we have bonded, and close quality friends for children as they each become more involved. As we find places like our little dream home here, that was put under contract by another person two days ago yet my heart still holds out hope, I realize that it is possible to live in privacy in a little dream home nestled in woods with a stream that gurgles through it, snuggled into a forest that opens up into lush pastures blanketed in green.....all while still living this life of abundant friendships and amazing people that the Lord has brought into our life. I do love it here. I don't exactly love our landlord or our current housing situation and it is quite fair to say that everyday in this house is an opportunity to be stretched by the Lord as He grows me more into His image. Someday I really will find the time to tell the somewhat humorous tales of the creepy landlord. But until we are blessed with a permanent place I will find contentment with where we are. As deck posts fall out of rotten deck, log sized deck splinters wedge their way into little feet..which is the direct result of a rotten deck and NOT the result of running around all day with bare feet all over the yard, I will praise Him. I will praise Him as shower door handles fall off, pull chains to living room lights pull completely out, and carpet grows more disgusting by the meal. And while rusted, corroded pipes spew forth water out of toilet plumbing, kitchen sink plumbing pours forth into 20 gallon totes, toilets resist being flushed many days I will praise Him. In all of my woman power I now confidently walk around wielding plunger and wage war with cranky toilets...and a septic system that I will laugh hysterically about when it sees fit to finally blow due to Landlord Einstein living in denial about it all. Ok...so laughing about it wouldn't exactly be the kindest way to handle it...but I will...cause it'll just be funny. But then again...it probably won't be so funny cause he'll say pipes were "weakened" due to weight of bike riding children putting stress on shallowly buried sewage carrying pipes. Yes, he will. Just as he stated that, despite previous history of basement floodage, the oceanic state of basement experienced a few weeks ago is due to dirt digging children jeopardizing drainage pipes. Neighborly deputy landlord has also seen fit to mandate that children not climb trees due to risk factors obviously involved, not pick flowers...because they make him happy...that one made me giggle, not dig because they may unearth a shallow pipe or jeopardize basement (apparently they already have) or digging, heaven forbid, might just allow water to seep into ground (that one made me just outright laugh). They have also been told not to ride bikes due to compressing earth too much and not to ride old broken go-carts down hill due to risk of destroying fence or basement bay door. Sooo....in an effort to remain just as neighborly I have instructed my children to do all of the above with even more fervor and even greater gusto than before. And he stands on his deck and watches in horror at all of the possible scenarios being inflicted upon his rent house. As of now they have yet to hit the fence and inflict any damage, and they have raised the bay door to avoid hitting it. They are riding bikes in yard because that's what kids do when they are not allowed on heavily traveled street. And they dig because this is not exactly an entirely landscaped yard and it possesses many natural potholes that existed long before our arrival in this place. We also have been instructed not to rake the 3 feet of leaves that carpet our landscaped heaven due to the fact the leaf carnage keeps at bay the red dirt dust that lies beneath. Life here is pretty interesting. And his many unannounced surprise visits during husband's absence have earned him a kind word that turns him away at the door and does not permit entry. As in..."This is not a good time. My husband is obviously away and children and I are busy. Feel free to call Brad at work or come back when he is home"..and with a kind smile the door shuts. And while landlord is never mean or aggressive he is quite rude and controlling in a very friendly, unassuming, manipulative way...so this new ability within myself to deny him entry is quite empowering. On the note of the creepy landlord, while I have time, I will tell two of his rather funnier antics.
As we had dinner brought to us each night by different families we were nearing the end of 14 entire days worth of meals. On day 13 mom with 3 carseats belted within SUV slowly drives down street attempting to locate our house buried amidst the leaves. She turns around and makes her way back up the road as fence jumping dog easily scales fence and runs to greet her rather unnerved self, as she turns out to be quite the dogaphobic. Children throw gates open wide and welcome her into our fenced driveway. She refrains and leaves vehicle in road as she and children unload pan upon pan of food and sacks of goodies for our family. Passenger doors open as her kids greet our's. At just this moment heroic deputy landlord, appearing out of nowhere, hops in PATROL CAR and DRIVES the 40 feet to mysterious vehicle parked in front of our house. In uniform he approaches and asks the group of us, "Is everything ok over here??? Is this woman bothering you?" Um...dear deputy Einstein....the lady handing over pans of food with her 3 children in tow???? That woman???? The one that the kids just greeted happily and met at gate, welcoming her in? That one? As a matter of fact, yes she is. Will you please be heroic, show your manly man strength, handcuff her and cart her off to jail, please? After it was over I texted husband laughingly and told of landlord's amazing acts of bravery.... only to realize later he must just sit in his car all day long and watch our life as we live. While on shift he will come home and sit in patrol car for hours in his driveway...and he just sits...and he just watches...for hours....in his patrol car....just watching us. And so I wonder what in the crap he does all day, why he's home while on shift and what in the crap he's looking at over here besides his OCD perceptions of kids destroying property.
A week and a half later Sunday school teaching friend comes over to drop off things our family was given. She arrives in her husband's small white truck. Grayson unloads bicycle and chairs and she comes in house and visits for a short while. That evening husband's phone rings and landlord begins the interrogation of husband. "Are we experiencing problems with our a/c again? Who was the person in the truck that was over earlier that day?" Husband denies the fact anyone was over, as he was at academy. At landlord's persistence school going husband turns to me and asks, "Was anyone over here today...in a white truck?" I answer negatively trying to think of who on earth drives a small white truck. Husband once again denies anyone being present at our house earlier in the day and landlord becomes adamant someone was here. Husband questions me again. Growing quite frustrated I answer more than a little sarcastically with some not so choice words about the ongoings of any personal life I might have and the choice guests I might entertain in his absence. Eventually I remember the visit from friend and I laughingly tell husband. He tells landlord, as we are now apparently accountable to him for who comes and goes from our house as well. And I grew a little stunned by the phone call. Visiting friend's husband runs an a/c business and the small white truck carries on it a magnetic door advertisement for the business. And then I realize that for off shift deputy to be able to read the words on the side of that truck and never step foot out of his house he must possess binoculars or a telefreakinscope to see the daily happenings of our life. And he watches that closely who comes and goes....closely enough to read the signs on vehicles and hold us accountable for the activities taking place. It suddenly became a little unnerving and he elevated himself into the realm of freak and stalker.
This past week he managed to promote himself further into freak realm when he kindly advised children to park bikes under deck so they'd last longer and not get wet. That was considerate of him to be concerned about the wellbeing of their bikes until he added..."And that way they won't be in the way of anybody needing to go in and out the door." And this was a little shocking, as no one knows or can see that kids park bikes on our small one car carport and it's a bit like running the gauntlet, as van blocks view of carport at all times. It did not take a genius to deduce that while we are gone he is present over here...enough to know that getting in the door is a bit difficult, to say the least....and enough to care about getting in the door. Unless he is making entry why on earth would he have any interest in the level of difficulty of getting in house door? Not long later he also asked why we are cleaning out and getting rid of so much stuff in basement. That was before the gift of old go cart had been given to children so basement bay door had not been raised since flood. The only way he could've had knowledge of basement activities was to have personally seen it....and he hasn't been over since cleaning of it began. Or, at least, we were under the impression that he hadn't been over. It is now becoming quite clear that he is making entry into home while we are away. So then I begin to fear that there are little cameras in choice floor vents recording all that takes place within home. So, I have now mastered he art of throwing clothing or towels over vents to block any view that may be taking place in bathrooms and bedrooms. As far as any view taking place while nursing....I guess he just gets an eye full. Or instead of watching for any signs of child abuse he's watching for house abuse. Who's he gonna call....Homeowner's Protective Services???
Ok...so I have no clue if there really are hidden cameras in the vents but I take precautions anyway. I do know I feel as though we have lost all sense of privacy but cannot confirm anything at this point. And the fact he watches children's every move and who comes and goes from here is just a little bit obsessive and more than a little bit creepy. So it is that I learn contentment within our small rather confined 1500 sq ft and with the various inconveniences experienced here. While learning to be at peace with it I long for a permanent, private home of our own here tucked back into trees that open up into our own tiny bit of NC paradise. I long for comfort within this state and a sense of being home. I long for bright cheery sunlight streaming through open windows, the soft yellowy warm glow of lamps, warm welcoming colors on walls. I yearn to hang pretty things up, pictures of children and far away friends and family, finally hang a wall of clocks, and everything warm that exudes the fact that we have finally come home here. My heart and sanity want comfort in this place....a place that tells of peace and happiness and being home. So we found a place like this and prayed and lived in faith feeling as though we had found home and as though the Lord had led us to it. It now sits with a contract on it...and it's not ours. So, I cried and was a little heartbroken as I watched it slip away but I do know deep within that God is indeed good and He longs to bless those who walk according to His truths and live in obedience. I think that in risking it all and living in obedience to what we felt Him calling us to do in moving to this place and requiring to give up what we did there He does have something for us here and He does care where we live and how the children grow. Truth that is sometimes very hard to believe in my skewed image of Him as I try to overcome the martyrdom that can so easily take hold at times. So I live in hope with what is to come as I learn to live in contentment with what we have been given. It is amazing to finally have an income here and I stand in awe of this life of towering trees, dirt for children to dig in, hills, sticks, the insane fun of broken go carts, bike trails, hiking, beauty, abundant sources of water and all of the places we could potentially live here. And I can't help but be so overcome by psychotic nature of neurotic landlord that the insanity of it all makes it a little hilarious and quite laughable...as I learn to be patient and grasp the fact that this is merely a season in life and we will not be here forever. God does indeed have an amazing place for us here. We are blessed and His mercies endure forever. He is good all the time and just as we long to bless our earthly children so does He long to bless his children. So I live in expectancy of the future and come to embrace what we have been given here....12 hour shifts, landlord and all. So the word "embracing" might be a stretch but I am definitely coming to accept it while we wait with hope for the future and what He has planned for us here.



























































